What does Dr. Phil know?

Cee Lo:
This particular song right here is dedicated to the black woman
And it doesn't pertain to all black women because some of y'all
disrespect y'all selves bcause you don't know who you are in the first place.
This is out of respect to women period

Word up

I'm quite single
And occassionally I mingle
But aside from all the rest
You sparks my interest
No m'aam I don't know you
Just offerin the common respect I feel I owe you
Also, some conversation, companionship
Common ground and common sense
There's no such thing as coincidence
In me findin you here
And I really hate screamin in yo ear
So some other time, OK? (ok)
I waited a day...

Hello, this is Carlito
From a coupla days ago
You sound tired
Forgive me if I call you too late
But what better time to relate mindstate
Where could I begin?
Has anyone ever told you have beautiful skin?
You're more than welcome
What do you desire within?
I just wanna be
There's no need to put titles on you and me
Those are limitations
Livin and learnin are our only obligations
Equality, honesty, independence
Intelligence emotin and devotion
Humbly seekin to hear God when he's speakin to us
A one time my mind just couldn't concieve
A woman had to dress a certain way to believe
But, in the same breath allow me to say
That, if you believe, young lady, you wouldn't dress that way
And I was attracted to your class
I couldn't see all yo ass
And I was very content
You deserved every compliment
Indifferences make us the same
You gotta have some game, or
You ain't even gonna be able to take care of yoself
I love when I look at you, I see my reflection
So I offer my love, affection and protecton
Shawty, you dead fine
But the bottom line is, you still my sista

Chorus:
Well, I say
You're my... beginnin, my end
You're my sista lover and friend
God is your light from within
It shines from your beautiful skin
What they say 'bout you ain't true
There's no me if there is no you
I hope that you understand
You got to respect yourself before I can

Gipp:
I met you and y'all knew
Saw you again on Marietta
Downtown Atlanta
Checkin your long legs, got me smirkin
Fixed me dinner one night, candles lit
Thought you was slick in the beginnin
But it turned out you wouldn't lie
Looked me in my eye
I listened
Sucked it up, pushed on
We made amends
Both sides clicked, true friends
Since then, years done gon by
Brought a baby girl into this world
Made our parents grandfolk
Household with no hope
Took care of ye, you me
When shit got put out on the curb
Closer than the skin on the back of my hand
Through the thick and thin
We can win
Beautiful black skin

Chorus:

Khujo:
No need to compete
With the music loud
Or stairs cold
Put on a scale
Of one to ten, you a twelve
I chose her over jail and hell
Originally from ATL

T-Mo:
Compatible souls come together
Under bad weather
To discuss the mistrust
Amongst the so-called
Good in every woman
How I wish this was true
I deal with facts only
Already done cloned me
Why I sang the blues
When there's only one God that watches over our every step
I need his help
When I'm walkin
Lookin for the right female
I can't tell sometimes
They tell me the devil's comin humble in his approach
Spontaneous with the game
Caught the naive of a girl fallin for the OK
Let the pistol smoke the one you live by
Die by
Examples of how relationships can be

Khujo:
I rolls the dice
Takin a chance at crappin out
Like today boy
I lost one of my best hips
Natural thick lips
No animal fat implants
Wide load
This daughter workin at the airport
19 years old
Worth more her weight in gold
But it was all my fault
So don't cry, understand
And down the line I want you back
But the feelin ain't mutual
Just promise me you'll find a new man
That's bout some business
Hope she find what her was lookin for
Like a ?????
I wanted to be more than friends
Beautiful black skin (black skin)

Chorus
(repeat)

- "Beautiful Skin" - Goodie MoB

I'm no stranger to some of the Internet dating sites that are out there, and my recent breakup has turned me back to surfing through them again on occasion. Lately, all I can do is shake my head at the women that I have been finding on these sites. You say one thing, but your photos say something entirely different. For the sake of not getting sued, I won't show you any example photos, but I'll try my best to describe...

• Example #1:
• Main photo is of a woman in some lingerie (if you want to call it that) laying on a bed. Let's not even talk about the rest of the photos - it only got worse.
  
• Age: 33
• Status: Never Married
  
• Height: 5'8"
• Body Type: Average
• Children: 5
• Quote: I'M LOOKING FOR SOMEONE TO CHILL WITH, SOMEONE THAT IS HONEST,FAITHFUL, CARING,RESPECTFUL, FUNNY AND VERY ROMANTIC... ETC...SOMEONE THAT WANTS SOMETHING OUT OF LIFE, SOMEONE THAT IS GOING TO ACCEPT ME FOR ME AND WILLING TO ACCEPT MY KIDS JUST AS WELL.SOMEONE THAT IS NOT ABOUT GAMES...SOMEONE THAT HAS GOD IN THERE LIFE JUST AS WELL... NO PICTURE NO RESPONSE!!!!

I'm all about the full disclosure, but there has to be a point where you have to decide do you really need to interact with anymore men? Do you honestly think any man is going to take what you say seriously? Wouldn't that $49 you just gave the site of your choice be served better by buying one of your 5 children some socks or something? I'm not saying that you don't deserve to find that special someone a ride off into the sunset like every girlie-flick ends... but let's be real for once. There has to be a point in your life when you accept that the decisions you made in the past and live up to the consequences...

• Example #2:
• Main Photo is a headshot with a sephia finish of a woman with a nice smile.
• The rest of the photos are headshots and group photos - no lingerie, no underwear... everything on the up and up.
• Age: 28
• Status: Never Married
• Height: 5'4"
• Body Type: Average
• Children: None
• Quote: I am looking for someone who is financially stable, good hearted, strives to be a better person and enjoys his family. Laughter is so important in life. A friendship is welcome but a long term relationship is what I am ultimately looking for.

Could be construed as dull and boring, but what's wrong with that? Gives you something to look forward to - maybe you'll find that "wild side" when you get the chance to go out. I realize that these are very different and contrasting profiles, but they both point out things that you definitely should and should NOT do when you're trying to catch a man online...

1. DO leave something to the imagination. If we can see you damn-near naked online, it's assumed that you're going to be totally naked pretty soon when we meet offline. How many men have you known to go to a strip club to watch a woman get dressed? None.
2. DON'T list 1000 things that you want your mate to have. This is one I need to pay attention to myself actually... It's fine to have requirements in a mate, but when you have a grocery list, you're going to turn off everyone - including the ones that actually meet your requirements. It comes off as being selfish and not willing to compromise, which is what that relationship (that you so badly want) is all about. Leave the grocery list in the grocery store.

I could probably sit here and come up with several other things to do and not to do, but I think you get the point. Don't tell me about about how much you go to church, but have pictures in your draws online. A great saying that programmers live by - garbage in, garbage out. You don't need Dr. Phil to tell you that for $49.95.