For all of you married people, how did you make it past six months? The infatuation stage has passed, you stop putting on your “interview” face and start showing your real side. What else do you two do that makes you stay together? Apparently, I haven’t been told about that magical extra part.
Over the past two years, I have been in two relationships that were going great until around six months in. In both cases, differences of opinion about one thing or another made things go south fast. What I learned from my last relationship is that there will always be differences of opinion and every person has their own way of doing things. In the first relationship, I think that I was looking for a way out, and the argument presented that opportunity. In the latter, I truly wanted things to work out. That’s not to say that things are completely over at this point, but needless to say I am truly hurt. I found out on my birthday through the mail – I inadvertently left my watch at her place, and she mailed it back to me. I know that I can be a little dense when it comes to getting a clue, but even I got that one. What kills me is the fact that there wasn’t even an attempt on her part to work things out. I look at my parents’ relationship and how they have evolved through my life, and I see two entirely different people, both with contrasting and conflicting ideals. It seemed to work for them for 30 years, so why can’t she give things a chance? I am by no means a perfect man, and trying to be perfect in my opinion is an exercise in futility. We all have our faults – the best thing we can do is accept that we have them, and try our best to improve on them over time.
Maybe my clueless, dense self completely overlooked something about her that I may never find out about… who knows? All I can say at this point is I have had some crappy birthdays in my time, but this one takes the cake. I am officially on the clock for my 30th birthday – I promise you that days 2 through 365 of my 29th year on this Earth will be 110% better than this one. Starting October 5. Happy Birthday to me.
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Damn Karl, that is one hell of a post. You need to send that shit to Essence or Reader's Digest. I can definitely relate to you though. Before Keisa, my post would have been "How do you make it past the 5th week?". I know people such as Dr. Phil and etc. are always talking about look at yourself... But I've also been a fan of the philosophy of blaming the other person as well. Shit maybe the first and second relationships, both of which I've met the women at hand, just had two crazy women. So just hold out hope because the right person will come along. I'd rather be by myself for forty-two years than spend another 5 weeks with someone who makes me want to stab myself in the neck. Feel me? Peace...
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